When you give don’t give the worn out shoes that you wouldn’t give to your sister. Give the shoes you would want to borrow from your girlfriend’s closet. It’s summer and you are probably thinking about getting new sandals, give away the ones that you no longer wear. The ones that have become too small because of pregnancy or weight gain. “Give and it will be given onto you.” Visit the website for a location close to you, or for more information on how to give.
Heading to the beach today? I don’t know about you, but I am ready to have some fun in the sun. Read my post for a complete list of everything that you need for the beach. My sister had this crazy idea about having a BBQ by the great Acworth lake today. The idea is crazy because I don’t think there will be a grill left for us to cook for this large family of ours. We will either grill at my house or go to the movies, which means we will still have to grill on Monday if we don’t grill today. I know we will have fun either way. I’ll be posting pictures. Yey!
Anyway! Remember to drive safely, pack all your beach essentials, and do not overeat. Have a safe Memorial Day Weekend!
2. Stressing out: Your cortisol hormone rises when you are stressed out, which affects your metabolism. Meditation is a great way to combat stress.
4. Too little fiber: Fiber makes you feel full faster, not getting enough can make you eat more. Eat more food that are riched in fiber.
5. Refined sugar: Refined sugars are found mostly in carbonated drinks like sodas. Drink more water or 100% fruit juice.
6. Steroid Based Drugs: Medications like hydro-cortisone can cause weight gain because they increase appetite and make your body retain water. Switching to a different drug may help you if you suffer from these side effects.
7. TV Dining: Eating while watching TV is like unconscious eating. You are zoned out. You don’t even realize if you are full or not. Eat your meals in the dining area instead.
8. Dining out: You tend to eat more when you eat out because, not only they give you a lot of food, but you also don’t want the food go to waste. Prepare most of your meals at home or ask for a brown bag.
9. Smoothies: Smoothies are good as a meal instead of just a drink. Some of us think that because it’s fruit it is healthy. No. Too much of any good thing can also be a bad thing.
10. Depression: Being depressed can force us to eat food that are high in calories. We also tend to sleep more when we are depressed. Therefore, we don’t have time to burn the calories. Regular exercise is always great for the brain and the body.
I am writing this post because I don’t want you, my lovely ladies, to be “young, fabulous, and broke“. I had no concept of money when I was in my twenties. Now that I am married and I have two children and a mortgage, I hear myself repeating this cliche a lot, ” I was young and stupid.” When it comes to money I only have 3 rules: God first, then myself, then the bills. Yes, I do believe in tithing.
Here are the mistakes we make when it comes to money:
- Thinking we own it– Your money is not even your own. The number one mistake we make is thinking that since we worked for it, it is our money. It all belongs to God. It is like the air you breathe. It can be taken away from you in 2.5 seconds.
- Not budgeting it – The good thing about budgeting is that you know where your money is going. This way if you need to cut back on something, you know exactly where to start. We also tend to spend too much when we don’t budget.
- Feeling guilty about spending it- Some of us, especially those of us who have children, feel guilty about spending too much money on ourselves. You work hard for it honey. So you better treat yourself right. I am not saying to go out and splurge, but paying yourself is so rewarding. I am not encouraging you to not pay the bills either. It is okay to pay a portion of the bill if you cannot afford the whole amount. It is better than paying nothing. Your lenders or service providers will take half over nothing; believe me.
- Not saving enough of it – You should always save some money for a rainy day, or retirement. If you pay yourself $100. 00 a month, you should save at least $25.00.
- Not giving enough of it- For those of you who believe in tithing, It is good to give to the church, but if you don’t believe in tithing, I encourage you to give to others because “it is more blessed to give than to receive”. My experiences have proven me right so far.
- Thinking we can afford it – Ladies, if you have to pull out a credit card to pay for it, you cannot afford it, unless you have the money in the bank to pay for the credit card at the beginning of the next month. The primary purpose of a credit card is to help you build your credit, not to encourage you to use money that you don’t have.
- Not investing it – I don’t care what you invest your money in, company stocks, IRA, 401k, people, I don’t care. Invest it. I personally love buying stocks and enjoy the dividends. I also love to invest in people. Knowing somebody who needs money when you can help that person financially is such a blessing.
- Not talking about it – It’s okay to say that you are broke. Talk to your best friend or your parents about it. don’t hide it. It will kill you emotionally. If you are responsible to pay the bills, tell your husband or partner when you don’t have enough in the bank to cover the bills. We are human. We make mistakes. It is okay to seek advice. You don’t have to do it alone.
These are seven ways that have worked for me during my eight-year marriage. Read on; you might just find something that you have not tried.
- Respect your partner: By respect I mean respect him as well as his privacy. When the bible says that the two of you will become one, it did not mean the private message on his cellphone is also yours. Do not treat your husband like you would treat your child. He already has a mother, he does not need a second one.
- Listen to your partner: Listen when your partner has something to say. We, as women, talk too damn much sometimes. And our husbands think that they are fixers. They are always ready to fix things. Sometimes we just need to listen to each other. It’s okay if you don’t have a solution to the problem. You’ve already done a lot by listening.
- Communicate with your partner: Communication is key in any relationship. Don’t assume that the other person knows what you are thinking about. Instead of complaining about all the things that your partner is doing wrong, talk to him and ask him for exactly what you want out of the marriage.
- Compromise in every situation: If you love black and your husband loves white, compromise on getting gray. We need to meet each other in the middle. We are two different individuals working toward one mutual goal, which is having a successful marriage.
- Put yourself in your partner’s shoes: Treat your partner the way you want to be treated. Don’t be quick to judge. If it’s okay for you to have male friends, why shouldn’t it be okay for him to have female friends?
- Support your partner: Be the supportive wife that God create you to be by being there for your man. Back him up in every situation, good or bad.
- Love your partner: Love should have been number one on my list, but I put it down here to show you that love covers everything that I just said above. “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.” Love is not the butterflies you feel in your guts when everything is going well in the marriage. Love is what is left after all these butterflies are gone. I sound like I am quoting somebody. I probably am, but I forgot who said it. Love is what gives you courage to forgive your husband after he cheated on you. So next time you say you love somebody, go back to 1 Corinthians 13 to find out if you really love that person.