We have been conditioned, permed and straight-laced to believe that anything that strays off the path of the beauty embodied by our historical oppressors is not only wrong, but also unkempt, dirty and in need of change. We’ve even coined phrases like the one made famous by Paul Mooney in “Good Hair” that state, “when your hair is nappy, White folk ain’t happy.”
Well apparently, Black folk ain’t happy either.
As a woman with natural hair, I believe that it is my freedom to flatten it, fro it up, twist it up or braid it down, and I sure am resistant to any overzealous lover of natural hair commenting on what a “real” natural woman is or should be. But this is a discussion that must be addressed; self hate is a real issue.
This isn’t an army-clad assimilation of black women deciding to stick it to the man; this is simply women learning to love themselves as they are. This is women learning to limit the chemical involvement in their lives. This is women learning to love exactly what it is the Most High molded them to be.
In my opinion:
This is just a small portion of the article. You can read the rest here. It would have been embarrassing for me to cut and paste the whole article and throw it in your faces like that. The article is very interesting. “We have been conditioned, permed and straight-laced to believe that anything that strays off the path of the beauty embodied by our historical oppressors is not only wrong, but also unkempt, dirty and in need of change.” She forgot to say that we have also been relaxed. Paul Mooney also said, “When our hair is relaxed, white folks are relaxed.” Or something of that nature.
I must admit that I don’t think that words like “revolution” or “movement” are the appropriate words to use to describe what we are doing right now. Words like “big chop” or “transitioning” are probably new to some natural sisters (that’s what my husbands calls sisters with natural hair) because they have been natural their whole lives. How do you start something that’s already been around? I can’t remember how many times I went natural. I would go natural in September and relax my hair in June. Did anybody notice me then? No. Even though we are all wearing our natural hair, remember that each of us went natural for different reasons, not just because everybody is doing it.